Last Updated on September 29, 2022 by Corynn
Lately, you’ve been wondering what it’s like to be in a relationship or notice that you want to go back out there and date again. It can be a scary and nerve-racking thing to do. You don’t want to be heartbroken, Nor feel overwhelmed in the dating world.
Want to figure out if you are ready for a relationship? Here are 10 questions to see if you’re ready for a serious relationship.
10 Questions To See If You’re Ready For a Relationship!
1. Are You Over Your Ex?
Recently got out of a relationship? If your breakup is pretty fresh, I suggest waiting a bit before going out there in the dating world. You don’t want to get into a new relationship and you’re comparing your new partner with an ex.
Guys notice and hate it. You want to go into a new relationship focusing only on your new partner. Give yourself the time to heal.
If you have taken the steps to heal from your previous relationship and notice you’re over your ex. Then you can start dating.
2. Can You Enjoy Your Alone Time?
Can you enjoy being alone? What I mean by that is can you do things alone without feeling lonely. Can you go to a coffee shop by yourself? Or to the movie theatres? have you found things you enjoy doing by yourself?
This is a great thing to learn prior to getting into a new relationship. Learning to enjoy your own company. I’m not saying you have to be a major loner although I want you to be able to go places/do things without needing somebody there.
3. Can you make Sacrafices?
When you start dating someone new, they are countless times where you will be making sacrifices and thinking about your partner. This could be spending time with them, always being there, taking time to talk to them some days.
Are you ready to be a bit selfless?
4. Do You Know What You Want in A Relationship?
I’m not talking about a full-on detailed list of their height, weight, hair color, occupation. I mean what type of relationship are you looking for? Are you looking for a relationship where it’s causal, a serious relationship where it may lead to marriage? Or an open relationship?
Knowing this will eliminate the confusion and frustration of finding someone. You’ll have an easier time dating and finding that person for you when you know what type of relationship you want.
5. Do You Feel Like Yourself Again?
After a long-term relationship, we may question who we are. We put a lot of time and effort into a relationship that we tend to lose ourselves.
If you still feel like you need time working on yourself, here are some things you can do to feel like yourself again:
- Hang out with your friends again
- Spend time with family
- Find a new hobby
you want to feel like yourself again prior to entering a new relationship.
6. Are You Ready To Be Open & Intimate With Someone Else?
Getting back into the world means you have to open yourself again. If you came from a relationship where you opened up and they took that for granted. Try to find some strategies where you can open up with others again.
This could be; only sharing as much as you want, or letting the person know that you need time.
If you’re struggling to be intimate with another person then let them know you need to take things slow. If you think that doesn’t work then you can always talk to someone about it. Don’t be afraid to seek help! Even if you think it’s not a big deal.
7. Do You Need To Depend On Someone For Happiness?
Are you noticing that you find yourself happier when you are with someone rather than without? If this happens that means you seek others to maintain your happiness.
Ways you can eliminate this is by doing things for yourself that make YOU happy. This could be seeing Broadway shows, binge-watching a show on Netflix, or finding a hobby you enjoy doing. Be sure that you can make yourself happy prior to getting in a relationship.
8. Do You Have A Crush On Someone?
Usually, people believe they are ready for a relationship when they develop feelings for someone. this could be someone at work, school. or even in your friend group. If you find that you are developing a little crush on someone, this can be an indication that you are ready to start dating.
9. Would You Be Okay Being Single?
Being single has various benefits for your overall health. You begin to take care of yourself more and learn new things about yourself. Realizing that it’s okay to be single is one step forward knowing that you don’t need someone in your life but want them to be in your life.
10. Are You Ready To Take Risks?
Ready to take the risk of falling in love again? Are you ready to take the risk to go through the process again of finding a new partner? Are you willing to take the risk to get your heart broken again? You have to be willing to trust the process of going through a relationship again and allow yourself to be open-minded about the whole process.
Coming out of your last relationship, you may have built your walls up again but that doesn’t mean that wall will stay up there forever. Take the time to figure out what happened in your last relationship, and see what did you learn from it.
Tips To See If You’re Ready To Date Again!
After asking yourselves those questions you either feel A) you need more time before getting back out there. Or B) you realize that “Yeah I’m totally ready to get back out there and date!”
Well here are some tips you can use when you start dating again:
1. Lower Your Expectations
Lowering your expectations can give you the opportunity to find someone that you would never go out with but in reality, they have so many things in common with you.
2. Don’t Bring your Baggage To A New Relationship
Your new partner shouldn’t be helping you resolve personal issues. Yes, they are there to support you but to a certain degree. If you notice that you may need to talk to someone and you’re partner is having a hard time understanding you? Then I highly suggest you seek help from professionals. This could be counseling, a life coach, or even attending support groups.
Better Help provides multiple services for you to use. This could be for anxiety, to healing from a past relationship.
3. Work On Yourself First!
One tip that I hope everyone here takes from is this one; work on yourself before being with anybody else. Find out what you’re hobbies are, what food you like or dislike. Things you like to do after work/school.
Having these things are already in place will help your future relationships so much. This will let your partners know that you have something going on outside of the relationship.